Why do married cops fall in love with their coworkers?
Why do some married cops fall in love with their coworkers?
Infidelity among some married cops is not an uncommon occurrence. This can happen for a variety of reasons. Shift work and working on weekends and holidays, according to the critics, play a role.
In a
law enforcement organization, we were trained to have a buddy-buddy system
where two individuals operate together as a single unit so that they can
monitor and help each other.
Many
people become close friends with their coworkers because they spend a lot of
time together and it takes about 200 hours to become best friends with someone.
About 20% of people also have a “work spouse or buddy,” who
they text all the time, talk about work stress, and hang out with.
If you
follow a routine, you probably spend more time with your colleagues than you do
with your other friends or even your spouse.
Imagine
a (senior) married cop having an affair with a (single) junior cop. When the
married cop’s wife walks into the office, everyone feels awkward and guilty.
You lose respect for the married cop, who senses the disapproval and begins
criticizing those who question the affair.
It’s a
long-standing (unwritten) rule not to have an affair with your coworker. You
risk losing your job, being uneasy at work, or creating office drama that harms
your professional reputation.
Why do
these things happen and what are the consequences of married cop having these
affairs?
We frequently heard married women say, “If he cheats, he cheats.” Long-term committed relationships require daily maintenance. Many couples enter marriage expecting it to work and then become complacent.
Infidelity
is not new, and police officers are not immune to physical or emotional affairs.
It was mentioned frequently in the Bible, indicating it existed over 5,000
years ago. The prevalence of physical infidelity is still unknown, but the best
estimates seem to be around 36% of marriages.
Infidelity
in marriage is wrong and harmful regardless of gender. It is in the state’s
interest to promote marital sanctity and strengthen marital bonds by outlawing
infidelity.
Despite
the fact that marital affairs are a private matter, the Philippine National
Police (PNP) does not tolerate married cops having extramarital affairs.
An
employee or official of the government who is found to be involved in an
illicit relationship may face disciplinary action or dismissal from office.
Inspector
General Alfegar Triambulo of the PNP Internal Affairs Service said last year
that he had only encountered two to three cases of police officers being fired
for infidelity since 2016.
As a
licensed professional, he/she is required to strictly adhere to, observe, and
practice a set of ethical and moral principles, standards, and values in the
practice of his/her profession.
The Professional Regulatory Board can suspend or revoke a PRC professional’s license if they engage in immoral, unprofessional, or dishonorable conduct.
His/her
good moral character is a requirement if he/she wishes to continue practicing
his noble profession. If he violated moral tenets, such as engaging in an
extramarital relationship, such behavior constitutes immorality.
When
one partner has an affair, it causes havoc in the marriage or relationship.
Restitution of trust will likely take years, even if remorse and forgiveness
are genuine.
When
it comes to upholding the rule of law, no government official or employee
should be allowed to act in a way that compromises their morality, integrity,
or efficiency unless they face appropriate sanctions.