Personal Development

Why do married cops fall in love with their coworkers?

Why do some married cops fall in love with their coworkers?

Infidelity among some married cops is not an uncommon occurrence. This can happen for a variety of reasons. Shift work and working on weekends and holidays, according to the critics, play a role. 

In a law enforcement organization, we were trained to have a buddy-buddy system where two individuals operate together as a single unit so that they can monitor and help each other.

Many people become close friends with their coworkers because they spend a lot of time together and it takes about 200 hours to become best friends with someone. About 20% of people also have a “work spouse or buddy,” who they text all the time, talk about work stress, and hang out with.

If you follow a routine, you probably spend more time with your colleagues than you do with your other friends or even your spouse.

Imagine a (senior) married cop having an affair with a (single) junior cop. When the married cop’s wife walks into the office, everyone feels awkward and guilty. You lose respect for the married cop, who senses the disapproval and begins criticizing those who question the affair.

It’s a long-standing (unwritten) rule not to have an affair with your coworker. You risk losing your job, being uneasy at work, or creating office drama that harms your professional reputation.

Why do these things happen and what are the consequences of married cop having these affairs?

We frequently heard married women say, “If he cheats, he cheats.” Long-term committed relationships require daily maintenance. Many couples enter marriage expecting it to work and then become complacent.

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Infidelity is not new, and police officers are not immune to physical or emotional affairs. It was mentioned frequently in the Bible, indicating it existed over 5,000 years ago. The prevalence of physical infidelity is still unknown, but the best estimates seem to be around 36% of marriages.

Infidelity in marriage is wrong and harmful regardless of gender. It is in the state’s interest to promote marital sanctity and strengthen marital bonds by outlawing infidelity.

Despite the fact that marital affairs are a private matter, the Philippine National Police (PNP) does not tolerate married cops having extramarital affairs.

An employee or official of the government who is found to be involved in an illicit relationship may face disciplinary action or dismissal from office.

The PNP Internal Affairs Service (IAS) said that they had only encountered two to three cases of police officers being fired for infidelity since 2016.

As a licensed professional, he/she is required to strictly adhere to, observe, and practice a set of ethical and moral principles, standards, and values in the practice of his/her profession.

The Professional Regulatory Board can suspend or revoke a PRC professional’s license if they engage in immoral, unprofessional, or dishonorable conduct.

His/her good moral character is a requirement if he/she wishes to continue practicing his noble profession. If he violated moral tenets, such as engaging in an extramarital relationship, such behavior constitutes immorality.

When one partner has an affair, it causes havoc in the marriage or relationship. Restitution of trust will likely take years, even if remorse and forgiveness are genuine.

When it comes to upholding the rule of law, no government official or employee should be allowed to act in a way that compromises their morality, integrity, or efficiency unless they face appropriate sanctions.